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Wow. Thank you to both of you! 🙂
Hey, how are you dealing with your phobia now?
Hi. Things are up and down but I’ve improved quite a bit over the last couple of years.
Great blog!! I have felt socially inept most of my life which seems to have got
worse now I have a young child. Reading your blog has made me realise I am not alone in feeling this way x
Thank you 🙂 I’m glad that it has helped you to feel less alone.
I too have social phobia and general anxiety disorder. I wasnt diagnosed until my mid 30s. The doctor kept saying i had depression. That was just a symptom that i was lonely and isolated. Its great that you have mastered it enough to continue school as i see you’re taking courses.
I wonder why you havent spoken of the side effects to your prescribing doctor (use a letter if you must) that worry you so much. I was given ativan ( very low dose, minimal side effects.. But addictive if abused)And its been a godsend when i need it, which is rarely.
As to learning to go to places that are busy, ive taken the approach of going on an off day (non busy time). Usually for pubs or bars thats mid week and early when they first open. Then expand to later time and busier day.
With people, ive never hidden my sp or gad. I cant hurt myself by being untrue to me. That “dirty” feeling is worse than being rejected.
To come out with it i used social chat sites where i could be myself with no risk meeting.
Thanks for your comment. I did speak to my doctor about the side effects of propranolol. She advised me to stop taking it but I find that I don’t have those side effects with a lower dose.
Attempting to go to new places when they’re less busy is a good idea. I want to get better at being in pubs and cafes but get overwhelmed when they’re busy.
I’m glad that you’ve been able to be open with people about your anxiety. Congrats on having the bravery to do that. 🙂
Hi Gemma, I struggle with social anxiety and am married to Morag, of Scottish descent. What I found was that her family was especially brutal regarding my condition. Do you think there’s less awareness about mental illnesses in Scotland? Here in Canada, we have Clara Hughes who cycled across the country to raise awareness for mental illness, attempting to debunk the stigma. Let’s face it: nobody chooses when, where or by whom they are born. Those of us who struggle with anxiety were born with over active stress hormones. Since we didn’t chose to suffer our condition (who would?), we need never be ashamed or let others shame us. Currently, I’m learning to master a sense of calm to counteract my anxiety. I have developed over 180 tenets and feel close to achieving my goal without drugs. Let me know if you’re interested in learning more about my calming techniques. Feel free to email. Yours in peace of mind, Jeff
I think there probably is less awareness here than in Canada and the US. I’m not sure why this is though. I’ve emailed you.
Hi Gemma, Just wanted to say I also suffer with SA and have also been prescribed propranolol. Im so happy to finally see SA openly discussed. Do you find you have a trigger? Im still trying to figure out what sets off my panic attacks. Kindest Regards, Richie
Hi Richie. Is the propranolol helping you? Presentations are the main thing that has triggered my panic attacks in the past, but generally, any time I feel that I’m the centre of attention and other people are noticing my anxiety symptoms.
That’s exactly how I feel when I’m put on the spot or if I think I look like I’m nervous. I am trying to take 10mg a day at the moment to try and get off it completely. Sometimes I have good days and then sometimes it feels like it has no effect.
How much were you taking before?
Hi Im clare and i have just come across your blog! I am a social anxiety sufferer and I want to become a veterinary nurse, but I need to find some work experience, the idea terrifies me, how did you cope? Thanks 🙂
Hi Clare. 🙂 I can empathise with how anxious you must be about the prospect of finding work experience. Quite a few people have asked me how I’ve coped with different things that I’ve mentioned on my blog, and I find it very difficult to answer that question. All I can really think of is a few small things that you can do to help with/ lessen your anxiety. For example, if phoning someone to arrange work experience is too much for you right now, see if you can email them instead. If you have to phone them, jotting down the points that you need to talk about/ the information that you need to include might help. This is probably going to sound strange, but I found that having a “practice run” of my bus ride/ walk to the place where I did work experience helped to ease my anxiety (I didn’t know the area well) about being late/ getting lost. Getting everything I needed for work experience ready the night before helped to ease my anxiety in the morning as well, as did having a playlist of calming music on my ipod for my bus ride there. Obviously it can be difficult when you’re anxious, but try to get a good night’s sleep before each day of work experience, and try to relax as much as you can when you get back home from work experience (you earned it!)
Some things that helped to ease my anxiety while I was actually at work experience included trying to keep myself as busy as possible (for example, cleaning doors, walls, radiators, etcetera) in an attempt to take my mind off my anxiety. It also meant that I wasn’t just standing around awkwardly on the less busy days. Thankfully, I found that the staff at my work experience were really friendly, which helped a lot. I think just being around the animals helped with my anxiety as well (strange as that may sound). I’m sorry if I haven’t been very helpful but I do struggle to say exactly how I’ve coped with various things because it’s usually just a case of pushing myself through it more than any particular techniques. I wish you the best of luck with your work experience. 🙂
Hey! As a young adult (not yet 20) who suffers from Social Anxiety, it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who thinks the way I think and feels the way I feel. I was reading your recent post, and I came across this line:
“I always seem to make the mistake of only making one close friend, so it hurts a lot when they abandon me.”
I totally relate. Recently I went through something similar. I had a really close friend who suddenly decided to not be my friend anymore, and I still don’t know why. These kind of incidents tend to aggravate our Anxiety, don’t they?
I wrote a poem on it too:
The thing is, I think it’s not very well known. It’s also highly misused. People either brush it away as ‘Shyness’, or they use it as an excuse for escaping Public Performances. If only people knew more about it, and understood the realness of the issue.
Anyways, all the best! As long as we Pray for and support each other, we’ll be alright. =)
Been following your blog anonymously for a while! I feel like you write the words straight from my own mind and feelings lol! Gotta love anxiety… Love your blog, I so appreciate everything you share!
Thank you. 🙂
hey, still waiting for the next post. Is there an update I’m missing 🙂
Hi. Apologies for the lack of updates. I’ve been super busy lately (to the point where I haven’t gotten enough sleep in weeks), but I’ll hopefully manage a post in the next week or so.
Hi Gemma. I’m new to reading your blog and already love it. I’m really impressed you are able to go to meetup.com groups. The idea of that just terrifies me. I honestly feel very proud of you (Is that weird??), when reading your blog, for facing your anxieties head on. I have had social anxiety for as long as I can remember. Secondary school was when it really started to affect my relationships with other people and I have struggled to maintain any sort of relationship/friendship with anyone since. But I have to say reading your blog has given me more positivity in the last hour than any mental health professional has since I started seeing any. Anyway what I’m trying to say with all my ramblings is thank you for writing so honestly and openly. You will be helping and giving courage to a lot of people. Kind regards, Shonagh
Thank you so much for your comment. 🙂 I’m glad that reading my blog has helped you. I’ve replied to your email.
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